consider the sperm whale and the squid. an ancient rivalry that dates back millions of years. we know the whales eat the squids. we know the squids do not make it easy for them. we know this because of the scars the whales carry, scars on the outside of their body, and on the inside as well. how badly must you want something to endure wounds inside your mouth? inside your gut?
consider the whale, who is harmed by what sustains her. consider the squid, whose flesh is soft and delicious but refuses to go down easy.
This post is about lactose intolerance I can smell it.
Remember that the right person will never get tired of you even in the worst times
No, they will! But they’ll work through it, or walk away for a bit (i’m talking minutes to hours) and then come back.
People can love you and still need to get away from you for a bit. And there is nothing toxic about that — it’s good, in fact. It helps remind everyone involved that everyone has boundaries, and everyone needs time to themselves.
It’s okay. Calm down before you talk about something that made you angry while your loved one is sick. Be sure of what made you mad so you can discuss it together.
Love isn’t a one-way street, and it’s something that takes work. Part of that work is knowing when you need to step away.
CGI animators should unionize next. normally, their jobs would be too precarious to strike, since studios would replace them without a second thought, but if it’s part of this larger general film strike, they might finally have meaningful power to better their working conditions
if CGI animators unionized, it would kill the MCU. straight up. the the entire business model is built on exploiting CGI animators
THEY ARE TRYING!!!!! SIGN THE PETITION TO GET THE DISNEY ANIMATORS’ UNION RECOGNIZED
this petition is from IATSE (union), btw! it actually has credibility, unlike most change.org/etc petitions! please sign it!!
Straight cis perisex able-bodied neurotypical people using aids designed for disabled people (I.e weighted blankets, grabby claw, sock holder, etc), going to therapists occasionally to keep up their mental health, using fidget toys, choosing to call their bf/gf their partner, using pronouns besides the ones associated with their gender just because they like it, and doing a million other small things that make us fitting in and being accepted a little bit easier is in fact exactly the type of support these communities need, and will ultimately help us so much more than gatekeeping ever fuckin will
the idea that disabled and queer and intersex people are so incredibly Different than and Separate from other human beings that our needs could never be relatable to others or the tools or methods that we’ve developed to suit our needs could never benefit anyone else is inherently dehumanizing and othering.
gender is fake! all dichotomies are artificially imposed! you can be cis and perisex and still experiment with your gender presentation! what does being a perisex cisman or ciswoman mean to you?
life is difficult and exhausting! even if you’re abled, there is literally no reason to make things harder for yourself when there’s an easier way. why do cashiers have to stand on their goddam feet all day when they could be sitting down? why is avoiding unnecessary suffering considered something that should be reserved for disabled people?
the idea that you should be forced into doing stuff that’s stupid and artificially imposed on you like gender norms or unnecessary physical exertion because that’s Respectable and Moral is a mentality that has been normalized specifically to oppress the working class, and it weaponizes the threat of being included in the “othered” groups to keep people in line.
“why are you complaining about unlivable wages? what do want, handouts? what are you, disabled? can’t you provide for yourself and your family?”
“why are you not performing gender norms correctly? what are you, gay?”
we’re all human. we all have complex needs. sometimes our needs are going to differ, and sometimes they’re going to overlap–even with people who have different experiences than us. that’s not a bad thing!
i remember seeing a post (i think reposted from reddit?) of a cis man talking about how much knowing trans men has made him more confident in and proud of his masculinity because they taught him that it isn’t defined by other people: it’s his own.
and abled people could really learn something from the disabled wisdom that there is no moral value in hurting yourself to attain someone else’s expectations of “success.”
we can all learn from one another and grow together. that’s a beautiful thing. that’s what it means to be human!
my brother started calling our cat “doobie brother” which he then lengthened to “dubious brother” and has since morphed into “brother dubious” like he’s some sort of fucked up little monk
